A few years ago, I received a call from a friend of mine who was ecstatic after a breakthrough weekend that he’d just had with his daughter.
That previous Friday afternoon, he’d driven to his daughter’s college campus for the annual Parent’s Weekend.
Between her school work, her boyfriend and her packed social schedule, his daughter’s calendar always seemed to be wonderfully full – and this being her senior year, she seemed to be even busier than usual!
In celebration of Valentine’s Day, today I’d like to share three strange ways that you can greatly improve your love life. If you’re single and looking to meet that someone special, I think that you’ll find these three tips truly helpful…
And if you’re not single, feel free to share this blog post with someone in your life who isn’t in a relationship, but who would love to be! I’m sure they’ll thank you for sharing this information with them.
These three strange ways that you can greatly improve your love life come to you courtesy of my son, love and relationships expert, Mat Boggs.
Do you feel that your relationship has lost its spark? If so, you’re not alone!
Over the years, I’ve worked with countless clients who looked like they “had it all” from the outside: fulfilling careers, comfortable lives, and beautiful families.
Yet after just a few minutes of speaking with them, they’d often confess that something BIG was missing from their lives. Despite their success, they found themselves struggling to connect with their long-term partners.
And every time I meet someone who’s run into this kind of roadblock in their relationship, I think back to something that happened to me many years ago.
Do you have negative naysayers in your life — people who may be trying to discourage you from pursuing your goals and dreams?
How do you handle this type of negative criticism, so that you can maintain your happiness and positive thinking, and keep moving forward toward what it is that you would truly love?
Any time you seek to stretch beyond your comfort zone, and set a great goal for yourself or take some new kind of positive action toward a dream that you have, there will often be people in your life who are not as supportive as you would really like them to be… (more…)
Have you ever paused to think that you are really a human being, and not a human “doing”?
Today is an invitation for you to pause in your normal activity, to set aside your “to do list” and enter deeply into the magnificent feeling of your “being-ness.”
Today is an opportunity to be available to life as it flows through you. Be available to the mystery today. Be available to the awe, rapture and wonder of your own aliveness. Experience the colors that are around you, the sounds, and notice how everything pulses with energy.
When you pause for a moment and let go of your busyness and your “to do list” you open space for appreciating the here and now. From this pause, that voice in you that always beckons you to more makes itself known.
Listen to the voice of love within you; it is the voice of your own beautiful becoming.
Many of us spend the holiday season giving to others, sharing our love, and enjoying it… but we don’t always take the time to take care of ourselves and our own hopes and dreams!
As a result, some of us end up feeling let down, tired, and unprepared to manifest our dreams in the New Year. I felt that way for a long time… but then I discovered something that changed my life, and I want to share it with you!(more…)
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Happiness eludes a lot of people. There are books written about it. There are pharmaceutical drugs intended to help people feel it more often. We invent and buy things that promise to make us feel just a little bit happier, every day.
Yet, none of these are an easy answer to how to be happy.
When I was a very young woman, just beginning to study personal development, the topic of happiness was something that fascinated me. I noticed that there were some people that were happy pretty much all the time, no matter the circumstances surrounding their lives. What was their secret?
And so it was around this time that I became exposed to the writings of one of the premier transformational teachers of the early 20th century—Emmet Fox. For many years, thousands of people would pour into Lincoln Center once a week to hear him speak.
One of Emmet’s famous lectures was “How to Be Unhappy.” It may seem a strange topic for a lecture, after all, who wants to be unhappy?
Interestingly, however, there were key lessons for all of us in his lecture if we paid attention, not on how to be unhappy but on how to be happy.
Here’s Emmet Fox’s prescription for unhappiness.
First, be sure to set aside twenty minutes a day. Find a comfortable and quiet place to sit where you’re not likely to be disturbed. Take a few deep breaths and begin to think about yourself.
Every time your mind wanders to something else — your kids, your work, your friend’s thoughtful gesture, the birds singing outside your window — all you need to do is gently and persistently bring your thoughts right back to yourself.
Think about the past and all the mistakes you’ve ever made.
Think of all the time you’ve wasted and all the opportunities you’ve missed.
Especially think about all the ways you’ve been treated badly, or all the injustices that have been brought upon you, or ways in which you’ve been a victim.
Imagine how much better off you’d be right now if people from your past had just treated you properly or the way you deserved!
Remind yourself of the unkind things people have done or said to you. Be sure to go over those incidents in excruciating detail.
And if a particular person has never actually offended you, tell yourself that he or she may have if they’d actually had the chance. They probably talked about you behind your back, in any case.
Now, think about your body and see if you can discover an ache or pain somewhere. (You probably can, if you search long enough).
Then, think about your business or finances. Even if things are going well now, it’s probably just a matter of time before things fall apart. Dwell on that.
If you can just think about yourself in this way for 15 or 20 minutes a day, there’s no doubt about the result.
You WILL be unhappy.
It’s something you can work on and improve upon every time you practice.
Therefore, if unhappiness is a habit that can be practiced and learned, happiness is also a habit that can be practiced and learned. It’s something you can learn, and it’s something you can make progress toward.
All you have to do is, instead of spending 20 minutes a day being self-centered and self-deprecating, spend 20 minutes a day doing the opposite — helping others and feeling gratitude. Think about those you can support and encourage, and what’s good in your life.
Before you know it, you will have an endless source of sustained, abundant happiness in your life, with just 20 minutes of thought exercises and practice every single day.
And that’s how to be happy.
And now, just one more thing…I have a gift for YOU!
Generate an instant wave of gratitude for yourself and your life – even if it’s only the ability to walk through this day, to see the sky, or to see the smile on a stranger’s face. A grateful heart is a wealthy heart!
Shift your focus away from what seems to be missing or wrong, so that you’re more easily able to direct your awareness toward what you would love to expand and experience more of in your life.
Begin to see golden opportunities that were here all along, but you simply weren’t able to see them from the frequency of fear, doubt, worry and criticism. Gratitude is an open door to a happier, to a healthier, and to a wealthier life!